Gratitude is truly one of the most healing emotions there are. No matter how bad things seem to be there is always something to be grateful for. There is no better time to start a regular gratitude practice than when you're going through something as devastating as divorce. Write down 5 things you're grateful for today.

True friends

They say when you go through hell you learn who your true friends are. That's definitely been true for me. I've lost a few "friends" but I've also been completely amazed by how loving, helpful, and supportive the real ones have been. People have been stepping up and helping in the most unexpected ways. Tonight, I am just so grateful for those wonderful people.

Crunchy snacks

Did you know that anger can cause you to crave crunchy foods? Things like chips and popcorn.

My crunchy snack of choice is popcorn. I've been finding myself eating an awful lot lately. But that's okay because, if you make it right, it's actually quite a healthy snack. Just make sure you buy organic popcorn as the non-organic stuff tends to come from genetically modified corn. I pop mine in coconut oil which gives it a lovely flavor and then sprinkle some celtic sea salt on top for saltiness but also to add more minerals to my food (health is in the little guys like minerals).

Do you still like Daddy?

About a week ago my 6 year old asked me this question. My heart sunk when he asked. I didn't know what to say because truthfully, I can't stand the person I'm divorcing and have to deal with today. So, I forced out a "yes" and gave him a hug. After he walked away I sat there thinking about it. I started thinking about the man I married. The man who was always kind, gentle, sweet, and loving. I do still like that man. In fact, I still love that man. So, later that night as I was tucking my son into bed I said "you know what sweetie, I do still like daddy and I still love daddy very much". I was so glad that I was able to answer that question positively and honestly because I truly don't want my kids growing up believing that I hate their father.

Forgiveness journal

In the bible Christ says that we are to forgive a person 7x70 times. I don't believe that He is referring to separate, individual offenses. I believe that some things that are done to us are so painful and so difficult to overcome that we have to forgive the same person for the same offense over and over and over and over again. Sometimes 10 times a day or more, sometimes for years.
So, every night before you go to bed write down your forgivenesses for the day. Write down what you forgive yourself for, what you forgive your ex for, what you forgive your ex in-laws for, your kids, yourself again. Whatever it is that you need to get out of you and forgive for.

Drink your water

Water is healing, it's renewing. Never underestimate the power of water.
Every morning when you get up fill a 2 liter container with water and make sure it's gone before you go to bed. Water not only hydrates your cells but it also flushes toxic emotions out of your body. Divorce is a time when it's very easy to become angry, but who wants to be angry? Feel your anger when you need to but then let it go. Use water as way to help release that anger and other negative emotions from you.

Keep it simple

One of my favorite inspirational people is Iyanla Vanzant. Just days after my husband walked out the door I was fortunate enough to listen to a seminar she gave. I cried throughout most of it but at the end she told a story about simplicity, about the importance of keeping life simple. As she was walking off the stage she said "booboo didn't leave you because you weren't good enough, he left because he wasn't the one for you. Keep it simple!"
Every time I start to feel down or upset I just remember that he simply is not the one for me.
If he left, he's not the one for you. You are good enough. Remember that.